The Power of Self-Compassion
Being kind to yourself has surprising benefits.
When facing mistakes, setbacks, or tough life situations, you may have a knee-jerk reaction to criticize yourself. But there’s growing evidence that doing the opposite — being compassionate with yourself — helps more.
What is self-compassion?
This concept can be broken down into 3 parts:
Self-kindness: Just like you offer support and understanding to a friend going through a tough time, “self-kindness” means extending that same type of care to yourself.
Humanity: If you can accept that no one’s perfect and everyone has their own unique struggles, you may not be so hard on yourself and feel less alone.
Mindfulness: If you acknowledge that you’re feeling a negative emotion (like jealousy, frustration, or anger), you may be less likely to get “stuck” in it.
The Science Behind Self-Compassion
You don’t have to be a “touchy-feely” person to appreciate the science behind this concept. Studies have found that people who learn and practice self-compassion:
Find it easier to bounce back from tough situations
Are more confident
Feel more motivated to make changes or try something difficult
Have more emotional bandwidth for others
Improve their body image and worry less about weight
Are less likely to get caught up in self-pity
Experience less anxiety and depression
Are less likely to burn out at work or as a caregiver
How to Practice Self-Compassion
The next time that you catch yourself saying that you should do something differently or better, try giving self-compassion a shot. To get started:
Recognize that you’re being hard on yourself. Noticing your self-criticism will make it easier to soften its edges.
Think of what you’d say to a friend. Imagine that someone you love is facing the same situation. What would you say to comfort them? How would your tone be different? Then, see if you can talk to yourself the same way.
Zoom out and take a larger view. Remind yourself that sometimes feeling inadequate is part of being human. Admitting this can help you be less hard on yourself, and you may be more likely to reach out to others for support.
Name your feelings. Instead of judging your emotions, try simply acknowledging them. Instead of “I’m a failure because I haven’t done any physical activity today,” maybe you can think: “I’m disappointed and frustrated.”
Take care of yourself. You don’t need to wait for a special occasion or until you “deserve” it! Massage your neck or hands. Turn on your favorite music. Physically caring for yourself, even in small ways, shows self-compassion, too.
Early Birds and Night Owls
Time to learn about your body clock!
Whether you joke about being a morning person — or how you’re definitely not a morning person — there’s truth to these labels. Everyone grooves to their own natural rhythm. Scientists refer to individual differences in sleep-wake patterns as “morning-eveningness.”
In this lesson, we’ll talk about “morning people” vs. “evening people” and explain how staying in sync with your body’s natural rhythm can help you sleep better. (Not to mention, give you more energy when you’re awake.)
What Makes Your Body Clock Tick
Your body has an internal timing device that is made up of special molecules in your tissues and organs that interact with every cell in your body. This system is controlled by 20,000 nerve cells in your brain that receive direct input from your eyes. That explains why you feel most alert when you’re exposed to bright light, and you’re naturally tired when it gets dark.
Your body clock is responsible for producing “circadian rhythms” — physical, mental, and behavioral changes that follow a 24-hour cycle.
These rhythms affect:
- Eating habits
- Body temperature
Some long-term health issues have also been linked to abnormal circadian rhythms. Among them: type 2 diabetes, obesity, depression, bipolar disorder, and seasonal affective disorder.
Circadian rhythms happen naturally, but they can also be influenced by things outside your body. Light has the most significant impact. Not sticking to a regular sleep schedule can throw off your body’s natural rhythms, as well.
Your body tells you when it needs to rest.. Are you listening?
While all humans — not to mention animals, plants, and even bacteria! — depend on an internal timing device, we don’t march to the same beat.
If your body clock runs faster than a 24-hour cycle, you’re a:
Also known as: An early bird or morning lark
Sleeping habits: You prefer to go to bed early and wake up early.
Eating habits: You’re more likely to eat breakfast and keep meal times consistent every day, even over the weekend.
Energy levels: The best time for you to be productive is in the morning, when your energy hits a high around 8 a.m.
If your body clock runs slower than a 24-hour cycle, you’re an:
Also known as: A night owl
Sleeping habits: You prefer to go to bed late and wake up late.
Eating habits: You’re more likely to skip breakfast.
Energy levels: The best time for you to be productive is towards the end of the day. Many evening types find that their energy rises around 7pm.
If your clock runs close to a 24-hour cycle, you’re an:
Also known as: Morning-evening person
Sleeping habits: You have qualities of both morning and evening types. About 60% of people fall into this category.
Eating habits: Your eating patterns are solidly sandwiched between those of morning and evening types. For instance, you’re likely to skip breakfast more than early birds, but not as often as night owls.
Energy levels: You’ll likely experience your biggest energy dip between 1-3 pm.
You largely inherited your morning-eveningness, but it could shift with age. During puberty, most teens become night owls. As adults approach older age, it’s common to shift to early bird status. (Although if you’re a hardcore night owl, that transition can take longer.)
Timing is Everything
Set your body clock up for success.
One type of “morning-eveningness” isn’t better than another, but you do pay a price for upsetting your natural rhythms. Jet lag’s the most obvious example. When you physically pass through different time zones, it takes a few days for your body clock to readjust. Until that happens, you’ll be tired and hungry at times that feel “off” to you — and cranky to boot.
When you don’t stick to a regular sleep schedule — for instance, maybe you get up early for work during the week, then sleep in on weekends — your body clock also gets out of sync. You’ll experience a similar phenomenon known as “social jetlag” until you find your rhythm again.
To keep your body clock running like, well, clockwork:
Be consistent about your sleep. Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time (or roughly within an hour) every day. Sleeping until noon on weekends may feel great, but it can disrupt your body clock for the rest of the week.
Go outside in the a.m. Morning sunshine helps your brain understand that it’s time to be awake and alert. Even opening your curtains can make a difference.
Limit screen time before bed. Artificial light from your devices can confuse your body into thinking it’s time to stay awake. Power down at least an hour before bed.
Look for ways to sync your schedule. If you’re a night owl, it might be tough to push back the start of your work day, but can you avoid scheduling anything before work? Can you exercise on your lunch break? Or schedule doctor appointments in the late afternoon? If you’re a morning person, see if you can limit late nights, when your energy naturally flags.
You can’t completely change your morning-eveningness, but a few strategies can help you adapt. Just go slowly! You’ll find it easiest to shift your schedule just 15 minutes at a time.
If you’re a night owl and want to be more of an early bird:
- Dim all the lights in your house an hour before bed to prepare your brain for sleep.
- As soon as you wake, expose yourself to as much light as you can. Natural outdoor light is best, but in a pinch, turn on lots of indoor lights.
- If you’re an early bird and want to be more of a night owl:
- Try to eat your meals a little later. This will gently shift your day.
- If you can, try to exercise in the evening.
Who Should Join the Dream Team
…and who shouldn’t?
While we all enjoy a good nap, especially when a hammock’s involved, it will do you the most good if one of the following is true:
- You’re sleep-deprived. When you don’t get enough rest, your body releases norepinephrine, the hormone involved with your body’s “fight or flight” response. As a result, your heart rate, blood glucose (BG), and blood pressure all rise. A short nap has the power to reverse these effects.
- You know you’re about to be sleep-deprived. Taking a nap before your body runs low on sleep could help you stay more alert. If you’re napping because you know you’ll be working throughout the night, you may need as long as a 2-3 hour nap to reap these benefits.
- You’re sick. When you feel under the weather, your body needs extra rest to help heal.
It’s a balance. Sometimes naps can create problems. Keep in mind:
- Naps may make your insomnia worse. Sleep too much or too long during the day and you may find it harder to sleep well at night. This is especially true if you take very long naps or tend to rest in the late afternoon.
- Long naps may hurt your health over the long term. Daytime snoozes lasting longer than 40 minutes have been shown to raise your cholesterol, blood pressure, and even your BG, all of which increase your risk of heart disease.
The “Right” Way to Nap
There’s more to a daytime snooze than pulling a hat over your eyes.
To reap the most benefits from your nap — and wake refreshed, not cranky — follow these steps.
Find a “cave.” Your perfect napping spot should be cave-like — cool, dark, and quiet. This environment’s ideal for sleep, so you’ll be able to drift off quickly.
Nap for less time than you’d like. Between 10-30 minutes of sleep time is often the best length for a nap. Rest any longer and you’ll enter a deeper stage of sleep that’s harder to wake from. As a result, you’ll feel groggy and disoriented, a state that experts call “sleep inertia,” or a “nap hangover.”
Aim for an afternoon naptime. For many people, 2-3pm is the perfect window to snooze: You’ve just had lunch, and your blood glucose and energy levels are in a natural slump. Try to nap earlier and you may not be tired enough. Wait until later and your nap could interfere with bedtime. If 2-3pm just doesn’t work with your schedule but you really need to close your eyes, nap when you can…but keep it short. (See above.)
Save longer naps for when you really need them. If you’re desperate for more daytime ZZZZs, set a timer for 90 minutes. That extended period will give your body enough time to go into, then emerge out of, deep R.E.M. sleep, so you wake feeling refreshed. But think of this longer nap as an emergency short-term solution — not something you should make a habit.
Give yourself time to wake up. Your brain needs a few minutes to transition back to the waking world, especially if you’ll be doing something that requires you to think fast on your feet. When you plan out your nap, factor in this extra time.
Emergency Nap Hacks
Need to nap but aren’t at home? Here’s how to make the most of it.
Invest in a neck pillow. Deep sleep requires all your muscles to relax — including the ones in your neck. That’s impossible if you’re rigidly sitting straight up, so invest in a U-shaped or inflatable neck pillow.
Block out light and noise. Reduce as much sensory input as you can: Turn off the lights, put on an eye mask, or just cover your eyes with a t-shirt. Use ear plugs to block out noise, or play white noise from your phone.
Choose a window seat. If you’re in an airplane, train, bus, or car, choose a seat that allows you to lean or rest your head against a wall.
Make the most of a flat surface. Can’t recline? This works in a pinch: Lean forward, cross your arms over a flat surface (like an airplane tray table or your desk), and rest your head on top of your arms.
Lose the “nap guilt.” It can be tough to make time in your day to sleep, especially if you’re used to packing (or overpacking) your schedule. Think of a short nap as an opportunity for your body and brain to recharge, kind of like plugging in a laptop when the battery’s low. Then lie back, relax, and enjoy those precious minutes of extra shut-eye.
Decoding Digestive Issues
Decoding Digestive Issues
Similar symptoms can make it tough to tell what’s wrong.
Gut disorders can be confounding. Are you sprinting to the bathroom because of something you ate, or is stress upsetting your stomach? Was that pain in your abdomen a gas bubble, or could you have an ulcer?
The first thing to keep in mind is that many digestive issues share the same initial symptoms. When there’s a problem in your gut, you’re likely to have one or more of the following:
- Excessive gas
- Nausea and vomiting
- Belly pain
- Trouble swallowing
The second thing to know is that your experience of these symptoms may be unique. Research has found that a surprising number of factors impact how vulnerable you are to digestive issues and how intensely you’re affected by them.
You may be more or less susceptible to — and impacted by — gut dysfunction, depending on your:
- Personality traits
- Mental health
- Cultural background
- Ability to manage stress
- Other health conditions
When talking to medical professionals about digestive issues, report your symptoms with confidence. If your concerns are dismissed or you’re treated as if you’re “overreacting,” you may benefit from seeing a gastroenterologist (GI), who will better understand the complexity of these conditions.
The Nitty Gritty Details
To help get an accurate diagnosis, be clear about the shape, consistency, and color of your stool, as well as how frequently you go. If you’re reluctant to paint a detailed picture of your poop, consider giving its consistency a number, based on the Bristol Stool Scale:
Bristol Stool Scale
Type 1: Separate hard lumps, like nuts (hard to pass)
Type 2: Sausage-shaped, but lumpy
Type 3: Like a sausage, but with cracks on its surface
Type 4: Like a sausage or snake — smooth and soft
Type 5: Soft blobs with clear-cut edges (passed easily)
Type 6: Fluffy pieces with ragged edges, a mushy stool
Type 7: Watery, not solid pieces — entirely liquid
Check for unusual coloring (that isn’t related to colorful foods like beets or blueberries), and report that, too.
- Stool that’s very light brown or gray may indicate a blockage between the liver and gut.
- Stool that’s black or red may contain blood.
Changes in color and consistency may or may not signal a problem, but clue in your doctor to help them make an informed assessment.
Treating Tummy Troubles
Helpful tips for common digestive issues.
The digestive issues highlighted below happen so often that they can seem like no big deal. And if tummy troubles are short-lived and due to an obvious cause (diarrhea after eating bad seafood or constipation after a long day of travel), they may easily resolve with rest and plenty of water.
But if these conditions persist, are unexplained, or accompany worrisome symptoms like abdominal pain or bloody stool, it’s best to see your primary care provider (PCP) as soon as possible, since they can sometimes be linked to a more serious condition.
What it is: Bowel movements are difficult and infrequent — one common criteria is fewer than 3 bowel movements per week.
Possible causes: Too little fiber (from vegetables, fruits, or whole grains) and/or water, certain medications, traveling, or other shifts in routine. In rare cases, a serious bowel blockage may be to blame.
Treatment options: Some of the safest treatments are bulk-forming laxatives (for example, Citrucel™ and Metamucil™) and osmotic laxatives (for example GlycoLax™ and MiraLax™), which draw water into stool and help it move through the digestive tract. (People with kidney problems should avoid osmotic laxatives that contain magnesium and phosphate.)
- Drink plenty of water.
- Eat naturally high-fiber produce and whole grains.
- Engage in light activity after meals.
- Go to the bathroom when you need to instead of “holding it.”
- Make a daily trip the bathroom 15-45 minutes after breakfast.
- Prop your feet up on a stepstool and lean forward on the toilet for easier elimination.
What it is: Having 3 or more loose, watery bowel movements in a day.
Possible causes: Viral or bacterial infections, food allergies and intolerances, artificial sweeteners, caffeine, certain medications.
Treatment: Drink water and broth to replace lost fluids and sodium. Over-the-counter anti-diarrheal medications can provide some relief. That said, they should be avoided if you have a fever or bloody diarrhea.
See your PCP if diarrhea lasts longer than 2 days and/or stool contains blood or pus, you have a fever, severe abdominal pain, or signs of dehydration — dark-colored urine, dry skin, fatigue, dizziness.
- Take care to eat food that’s safely prepared and stored.
- Limit drinks and foods that contain caffeine or artificial sweeteners.
- Ask your PCP or pharmacist if medications you use may cause diarrhea.
- Take antibiotics only when necessary and prescribed by your PCP.
- Drink filtered or bottled water when traveling abroad.
Acid Reflux & GERD
What it is: Acidic stomach contents back up into your esophagus. This can cause a burning feeling in your throat, chest, or upper abdomen (aka “heartburn”). If this happens more than twice a week or if you’ve been taking over-the-counter antacids for two weeks or more with no relief, you may have gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), and you should see your PCP.
Possible causes: Medication side effects, smoking, and/or excess pressure on the abdomen from being overweight can cause the sphincter (muscular opening) between the stomach and esophagus to weaken or relax.
Treatment: Occasional acid reflux can be treated with over-the-counter antacids and medications that inhibit stomach acid production. If you have GERD, your PCP can help you choose the best treatment based on suspected causes.
- Eat moderately-sized meals.
- Avoid foods and drinks that make symptoms worse.
- Avoid lying on your back after eating.
- Elevate the head of your bed.
- Avoid smoking.
What it is: Veins that line the lower rectum or anal opening become swollen.
Possible causes: Straining during bowel movements, chronic diarrhea, being overweight, standing or sitting for long periods.
Treatment options: You may be able to relieve swelling and discomfort with ice packs or by sitting in a warm bath. Over-the-counter hemorrhoid creams and suppositories can also help. In some cases, hemorrhoids may have to be removed.
Prevention tips: The steps to prevent constipation and diarrhea (see above) will also help prevent hemorrhoids.
These more serious conditions belong on your radar.
Sometimes digestive symptoms like diarrhea, constipation, or acid reflux are related to more complex conditions, like the ones below. If you suspect you might have any of these issues, schedule a visit with your primary care provider (PCP), and ask if you could benefit from seeing a gastroenterologist.
Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
IBS is a testament to the intricate connections between the digestive and nervous systems. If you have this condition, the muscles of your colon will contract more often than normal, often in relation to stress. This can lead to overly frequent bowel movements or equally disruptive “false alarms,” and it can also be associated with painful cramps and bloating.
IBS can be challenging to manage but often improves through changes to your diet (for example, eating frequent small meals and avoiding foods that worsen IBS) and by taking steps to reduce and cope with stress. Your PCP or specialist may also recommend medication.
If you have celiac disease, your immune system reacts to gluten (found naturally in wheat, rye, and barley) by attacking the lining of your small intestine, which can inhibit nutrient absorption.
You may not have any symptoms, but if you do they can include diarrhea, constipation, fatigue, or abdominal pain and bloating. If untreated, lack of nutrition absorption can contribute to osteoporosis, anemia, and cancer. Celiac disease can sometimes appear as a severe skin rash called dermatitis herpetiformis.
Switching to a gluten-free diet — though by no means easy — will prevent the immune reaction.
When the lining of the large intestine becomes weak (which can happen naturally as you age), the pressure of hard stools may cause small areas to bulge out to form pockets or “diverticula.”
At least half of all people have diverticula by the time they reach 80 years old. Diverticular disease is diagnosed when diverticula become associated with abdominal pain, bloating, fever, or diarrhea, usually due to inflammation or infection.
You may be prescribed antibiotics to fight infection as well as dietary changes (increased fiber and water) to help prevent constipation. In some cases, sections of the large intestine may need to be removed.
Tissue growths or “polyps” that grow in the lining of the colon or rectum can sometimes become cancerous. If you’re over 50, ask your PCP if you’re due for a colonoscopy (an internal screening to detect polyps).
Polyps found during screening can be easily removed before they can become cancerous. If a polyp does become cancerous, treatment depends on the extent to which cancer has spread.
Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD)
IBD includes Crohn’s disease (extensive inflammation of the digestive tract), ulcerative colitis (inflammation of the large intestine), esophagitis (inflammation of the esophagus), and other digestive conditions characterized mainly by inflammation.
With IBD, you may have symptoms including diarrhea, fever, fatigue, abdominal pain and cramping, bloody stool, reduced appetite, and unintended weight loss. These symptoms often come and go as inflammation fluctuates, making IBD an especially frustrating condition to manage and live with. The causes of IBD are still unknown, but they are thought to be immune-related.
Treatment is highly individualized, depending on the level of inflammation and where it occurs, but often involves lifestyle changes (diet and exercise) plus medication to reduce inflammation, suppress auto-immune response, or fight infection. Surgery is sometimes recommended.
The Great Snack Debate
To snack or not to snack? Here’s how to decide.
Snacks have a bad reputation as sources of excess calories, but that doesn’t have to be the case. In fact, regular snacks may be a key way for you to manage hunger and get extra nutrition. Research shows that people who snack on fruit and nuts tend to have a higher-quality diet, and that snacking on veggies is associated with a lower body mass index (BMI).
Figuring out if your current snacking habits are working for you depends on when you’re snacking, which snack foods you’re choosing, and how your snacks impact your appetite at mealtimes.
You may want to add a snack if…
You’re overly hungry at mealtimes
You could benefit from added nutrition (e.g. more fiber from veggies and fruit or more calcium from dairy) but it’s challenging to fit it into your meals
You may want to eliminate a snack if…
You’re not hungry at mealtimes
You eat to distract yourself (from stress, boredom, or other uncomfortable emotions)
You eat because you’re tired or low on energy
You may want to change up your snack choices if…
You still feel hungry after snacking
You snack on “trouble foods” that are easy to overeat
You snack on high-sodium foods
This week, we’ll help you evaluate your snacking habits so you can decide what, if anything, you want to change. Plus, we’ll serve up some fresh snack options in case your current standbys are getting stale.
Track Your Snacks
Shed some light on between-meal munching.
Snacks can be challenging to track, especially if you’re quickly eating whatever’s available when hunger or a craving strikes. To gain insight into your habits, consider tracking all your snacks for a week, or at least a few days. As you enter snacks into your Omada Food Tracker, add details that help you identify patterns.
Details to include in your tracker:
Approx. serving size(s) of your snack
Time and place you ate it
How hungry you were
What you were doing and/or how you were feeling
The more information you add, the more useful tracking will be. Your entries might read something like “Handful of grapes, 1 cheese stick (11am, at work, mildly hungry, stressed)” or “2 cookies, medium black iced coffee (3pm, coffee shop, not hungry, low energy).”
As you track, keep an eye out for these and other patterns:
Snacking on high-sodium foods. Store-bought snacks tend to be sky-high in sodium. Switching to homemade and whole-food snacks (see the next page for ideas) may be a great way for you to reduce your sodium intake.
Portion-free snacking. Not sure how much you ate because you were snacking straight out of a box or bag? Make it a goal to roughly measure out a single portion (and put the rest away) before you start snacking.
Snacking at certain times/places. Knowing when you typically snack empowers you to plan ahead and ensure you have nutritious options available.
Snacking before physical activity. It’s common to think you need extra snacks when you exercise, but unless you’re exercising at moderate or high-intensity for 30 minutes or more, that may not be true. Tune into your hunger level — your body will let you know if you need a snack.
Snacking late at night. If you have a balanced dinner within 3-4 hours of bedtime, night snacking is probably more a matter of habit (or an attempt to satisfy a craving) than a response to hunger. Choose low-calorie snacks — air-popped popcorn, cut veggies with dip, roasted chickpeas, or veggie chips (see recipes on the next page).
Snacking instead of eating meals. If you’re snacking through meal times, that’s a habit worth changing. Snacks aren’t likely to provide balanced nutrition that keeps you at your best. It may also be a sign that self-care — which includes eating well — is too low on your list of priorities.
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